Tuesday, November 30, 2010

What to Do with Christmas Cards?


Look for instructions how to make the above display at http://www.bhg.com/holidays/

Change is good, right?
Last night, Adrianna and I had a [long, caffeinated] conversation about where we want this blog/website to go. We are bursting with ideas (or maybe the sodas we were drinking?) and ready to kick off the new year in style. Stay tuned for some great new features on this site.

Until then, the picture above is the project I am working on. It makes for a great holiday decoration AND way to display Christmas cards.

Also--in the spirit of handmade for the holidays--I made my sister-in-law's present tonight. Can't wait to show you what it is ... later.

Spicy eggnog anyone?


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Monday, November 29, 2010

It Came Upon a Midnight Drear(y)


Photo by djLicious

It was a bleak, Black Friday ...
Have you ever stopped to consider the irony that we celebrate Thanksgiving--a day in which we spend the day extolling things we are thankful for--only to follow it up with a day in which we try to stuff as much into our shopping carts as humanly possible?

"I am thankful for my family." (But it would be great to have that laptop, too.)

Well, maybe you didn't shop on Friday, but I did.

My brother, sister-in-law, and I decided to brave Black Friday in style. After driving around the parking lot of one particular store for over a half-hour, we parked about a mile away and played frogger across multiple lanes of midnight traffic.

Here is what I was thankful for on Thanksgiving night: I survived.

While standing in a check-out line that (quite literally) wrapped around the store, we watched as a shopper stepped away from her cart to check on something with the cashier who was tallying her total. After the two of them disappeared, vultures lighted on the shopper's cart (many of her items already in bags) and when the carnivores were done, the only things left on the cart were its wheels.

Here's the thing. I came away with gifts for my family that I am thankful to have saved same some pennies on. But I am more aware than I ever have been that while I am thankful for many things ... there is the still, small voice that tells me I would be MORE thankful with LESS.

It was a bleak, Black Friday. But my outlook is getting brighter.

Hope your holiday was one for the books--


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Sunday, November 28, 2010

Prayer from the All-Good


Photo by Andréia

Thanksgiving weekend is over. Here is my prayer for this week.
This is my magnet, my attraction.
Thou art all my good in times of peace,
my only support in days of trouble,
my one sufficiency when life shall end.
Help me to see how good Thy will is in all,
and even when it crosses mine
teach me to be pleased with it.


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Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Our Thanksgiving Wish for You


Photo by Lane & Anne

Happy Thanksgiving!
May your stuffing be tasty;
May your turkey be plump.
May your potatoes and gravy
Have nary a lump.
May your yams be delicious,
May your pies take the prize.
And May your Thanksgiving dinner
Stay off of your thighs!

~Author Unknown


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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Photo Napkin Rings


Photo from Disney's Family Fun
Photos and memories are the stuff of life.

And here is a little touch that will make a big difference. Learn how to put them together here.


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Monday, November 22, 2010

Thanksgiving Week: Best Practices


Photo taken by Trisha
Here is the list of best practices I made after hosting Thanksgiving at
my home one year.

It is a great idea to make a list of best practices for your own records, allowing you to improve your process from year to year. Enjoy!


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Sunday, November 21, 2010

The Blessing of Deprivation


Photo by M.Markus

“On your mark, get set, go!”
For most people, those aren’t exactly the words that come to mind on Thanksgiving Day. But for me, they are synonymous with the holiday. To me, presents are to Christmas what Pumpkin Pie and President Lincoln are to Thanksgiving.

See, every Thanksgiving of my childhood—and even a few years thereafter—my brother and I, or any child caught in our home as the case might be, would race to see who could create the longest list of things to be thankful for. We wracked our brains—careful to conceal our writing—and listed everything we could imagine. We went through piles of paper and numerous writing instruments. Usually the contest was timed, and usually our hands were sore for hours afterward. We didn’t just put “the President.” We put every President we could remember—and even Vice Presidents where possible. And we never wrote “mashed potatoes and gravy.” No. Those could count for two food choices if we wrote them on separate lines.

This game was serious business in our house. And it wasn’t all bad. We spent days leading up to the festivities thinking about these lists, which meant we were thinking about things to be thankful for and not just how much pie we would eat.

As I think back over the fun of that annual game, I realize now that there was one item we never included on our lists. I’m sure we never even came close to including it because—from all outward appearances—it isn’t something to be celebrated. We wrote names of family members and days of the week—

But we never wrote “trials.”

As I think about it now, “trials” would have opened a whole new category that could have easily given me the edge in our game. After all, trials include everything from bad days and ruined friendships to deep valleys that cause us to come face-to-face with what we really believe about God—and, of course, everything in between. The types of difficulties within a category like “trials” are endless.

So are our attitudes in response to these trials, I’ve learned.

Though I never considered it as a child, I’ve spent considerable time thinking about it as an adult. As I’ve come to learn first-hand, the pruning process of trials is painful, and most generally leaves us feeling vulnerable and weak. If not weak, perhaps we face anger or disappointment or denial instead.

But are we often thankful for trials? Or is that an archaic, unnatural response that sounds good in a Sunday School lesson and ends there?

As women devoted to living out God’s Word in our lives, must we really be thankful for the hard things or simply “willing to endure” them with whatever grim optimism we can muster?

God wants us to be thankful.

James 1:2-3 says, “My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.”

What clearer command could there be on Thanksgiving Day than the command to count something all joy? “Count it all joy” is, in essence, what Thanksgiving is about—isn’t it?—rejoicing in what God has given us—making James 1:2-3 a true “Thanksgiving verse.” We thank the Lord for family, protection, nourishment, and friends, but what about the specific thing we are commanded in James to be thankful for?

James very deliberately tells us to “count it all joy” because being thankful for trials isn’t our natural response. Nowhere in Scripture are we commanded to count “the easy things” all joy because that is expected. It isn’t the natural response to be thankful for the difficult things or for the things that don’t go our way.

This is Christian maturity and something I never could have understood during our little game, but this Thanksgiving, as I look back over the previous year and the various life lessons God has brought into my life in the form of disappointments and pain, I choose to be thankful for trials. Why? Trials are the clearest reminder that God is still interested in pruning me and making me more like His Son. What could be better than that?

Later in James 1:17, the author tells us that “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” Is it any coincidence that a verse about “perfect gifts” is included in a passage about trials? I don’t think so. I may need to re-visit the idea of writing down the things God has given me on this Thanksgiving Day.

I have a new category to examine and a lot to be thankful for.


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Friday, November 19, 2010

Vintage Challenge


Buy this print from pleasebestill on Etsy!
. . . That is the challenge.

It's another (beautiful) vintage advertisement. I love 'em. Really, I could wallpaper my house with vintage ads. But I won't. My husband would move into our garage.

Tonight I am thinking about Thanksgiving--thinking about the fact that, if you do a little bit every day, there isn't as much to do the night before. Anyone with me?

Happy weekend!


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Thursday, November 18, 2010

Of Homes and Cupids


Photo taken by Trisha
A few months ago, I assisted my family in cleaning out my Grandma’s
house.

I unearthed centuries of photos, enough linens to outfit the Republic of Uzbekistan, and pots and pans that are older than I. (Additionally, I discovered a handful of crocheted items I am still unable to identify.)

And I realized with a sort of startling clarity one major difference between homes today and homes from 60 years ago:

Home, then, was where the heart was. Home, today, is not necessarily where the heart is.

Grandma’s house was full of items for each of the holidays—including wax candles in the shape of cupids and a crocheted holiday village larger than New York City. Whole dressers were designated for hospitality—holding pristine table cloths and carefully polished silverware. Years of accumulated calendars and greeting cards signified a full life of caring for friends and family.

And a fairly logical part of me wanted to move in and pick up where she left off when she moved into the retirement center.

In my opinion, the fact that yesteryear’s holiday celebrations have been replaced with today’s work obligations, that yesterday’s hospitality has been replaced with today’s night at the movies, and that yesterday’s greeting cards have been replaced with today’s e-mail . . . is not a sign that we’re moving forward. It’s a sign that we’ve lost touch with what’s important to the health of our families.

If I had it my way, I’d rather live next door to June Cleaver and socialize with Margaret Anderson than pay an impressively high mortgage or afford the "stuff" that too easily and too briefly satisfies.

There’s no way around it: home is important. I see no disconnect between the rise in crime and growing numbers of latch-key kids. I see no separation between competing salaries and growing divorce rates. I have no trouble accepting that families aren't as close, since so many of them gather for their evening meal around a fast-food booth.

We have better technology, more opportunities for education, advanced methods of communication, and . . .unhappy, unhealthy homes.

See, I don’t think that women—including my grandma—were housewives in 1950 because they were unintelligent or incapable of working in a professional office. I think they were homemakers because they knew something about the effects of a clean house, a good meal, and a fully-functioning home environment.

I think they were on to something, strawberry-scented cupids and all.


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Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Painting Memories






We've talked a lot about how to get ready for Thanksgiving day.
And if you've followed even some of my suggestions, you're ahead of the game. Important as all that preparation is, I can't help but think I've saved the best Thanksgiving tip for last. Tip #439 for our Thanksgiving holiday prep this year is don't forget to create traditions with your family.

I've been thinking a lot about creating traditions lately. I had a good conversation Sunday with a friend who has been doing a lot of thinking about traditions, as well. She directed my attention to an e-book written by the wife of author and pastor John Piper about this very subject. The best part about this book is that it's free!

I've given you my secret weapon here, my treasure trove of information for potential upcoming holiday blog posts. But I have no regrets. These ideas take planning and forethought, and I want us all to be prepared for what might be the most important detail in all of these holidays--the traditions that provide the canvas on which we will paint our memories.

*How about creating your own version of the Thanksgiving advent calendars shown above. It's too late to count down the entire month, but you can certainly count down the week up to it. Make the month-long advent calendar a project for next year!


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Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Rain and Other Words


Photo by penreyes

If you listen very closely, you can hear it.
It is raining tonight. I love the rain. It's one of the things I dread not hearing during the winter months. My husband loves the snow--and snow is okay--but it doesn't sound like rain. I'd rather listen to rain than make snow people.

But rain isn't what I'm talking about.

Tonight, if you listen very closely, you can hear the rhythmic tap tap tap of the keys on my keyboard. I am making the final edits to my first book manuscript which will be submitted to the publisher tomorrow. It has been a work in progress. Mere months ago, my husband and I began this journey together. We've laughed, cried, thrown crumpled pages at each other instead of in the trash can, and we've put on paper what has been the difficult journey of waiting.

Tomorrow, this part of the trip will be done.

I look forward to sharing more details. Stay tuned. And for now, if you can hear it, enjoy the sound of the rain.


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Monday, November 15, 2010

Adoption Monday: Part 3


Photo by jtBrennan

To the son I have yet to meet:
Not flesh of my flesh,
Nor bone of my bone,
but still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute;
You didn't grow under my heart
but in it.

--Anon.

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Sunday, November 14, 2010

Details, Details, Details


Photo by Andreas Kollegger

We must believe that God is capable of doing profound and incredible things!
When we stop believing that God is able to do for us what we need Him to do, we will stop seeing His hand in the details of our lives. We will pat ourselves on the back for things we have no business taking credit, and we will miss the blessing that exists in our dependence on our Heavenly Father.

Hope is believing that God is able to do more than we could ever imagine.

2 Corinthians 9:8: And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work (ESV).


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Friday, November 12, 2010

Thank You to the Veterans


Photo by KDavidClark

Today, and every day, we honor them.
Woodrow Wilson, the president who first proclaimed November 11 as a holiday, said, "To us in America, the reflections of Armistice Day will be filled with lots of pride in the heroism of those who died in the country's service and with gratitude for the victory, both because of the thing from which it has freed us and because of the opportunity it has given America to show her sympathy with peace and justice in the councils of the nations."

Feel free to leave your words of pride and gratitude here for the many you have known and loved who have served their country.




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Thursday, November 11, 2010

Thanksgiving Preparation: Phase 2


Photo by gamene

Thanksgiving is two weeks away!
How did your planning go? This week we're moving into the next phase of our Thanksgiving preparation.

Here's an entire timeline which includes our task list for this week:

3 Weeks Ahead--Planning Phase
Buy/set up a notebook with dividers
Choose your recipes; test any new ones
Generate a shopping list
Gather coupons and watch sale papers for the best deals
Plan a guest list; send out invites with a Nov. 11 RSVP date
Plan your tablescape
Rent/borrow any items you need now
Work on centerpiece and name places now

2 Weeks Ahead--Preparation Phase
**You are here!

Continue shopping for non-perishables with coupons. Check sale papers for the best deals
Finish any of the tasks you didn't finish during the Planning Phase

1 Week Ahead--Shopping and Execution Phase
5-7 Days Before Turkey Day
Clean out the fridge to make room for the food as you prep it
Iron linens if using cloth

3-5 Days Before Turkey Day
Start thawing the turkey 5 days before Thanksgiving *see thawing guide in handouts
Follow House Honcho's daily lists. We'll get your house in tip-top shape for the main event

2 Days Before Turkey Day
Shop for all your perishables
Start preparing and/or making the dishes that are on the make-ahead list (baked items, cranberry sauces, soups, dips, mashed potatoes; assemble casseroles and store uncooked; cube bread for homemade stuffing)

Day Before
Set the table
Pick up your fresh turkey
Make broth from giblets (excluding liver)
Set up the coffee and beverage bar, if applicable
Brine the turkey *see general brining recipe and principles in handouts
Defrost frozen items

Thanksgiving Day
Cook turkey and allow 30 minutes for rest time after it's done cooking
Warm pre-made sides
Cook other dishes
Heat bread
Make salad
Make/bake greens
Make gravy **Tip: A pan that's not non-stick makes better gravy
Carve turkey

Don't forget that the more you do now, the easier the week of the big day will be for you and those who love you!


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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Motherhood As a Prison


Photo by ♥ Morning Glory ♥

Does society manipulate mothers?
Spend every moment with your child? Make your own baby food and use cloth diapers? Erica Jong wonders how motherhood became such a prison for modern women ...

Read the rest of the article from The Wall Street Journal (that I plan to critique once I can see straight again) here.


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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

On Genes vs. Jeans


Photo belongs to Trisha
This Month is National Adoption Month (Part 2)

"Adopted kids have more emotional problems than kids who aren't adopted."

Believe it or not, my brother and I heard these words (more than once!) when we were growing up. Well-meaning, non-family members would remind us, on occasion, that as adopted children, we were more likely to get pregnant out of wedlock or do drugs or burn the neighbor's house down.

(Seriously, thank you, Anne of Green Gables et. al.)

Thus far in our lives, I am grateful to report that my brother and I have staved off the fierce desire to do much more damage than fork our own yard. Though there was that one time ...

Wait, no--there wasn't. We have remarkably non-violent pasts.

Sometimes it feels like people are determined to prove the link between adoption and violence. Ever notice that news reports mention when a criminal was adopted? Ever heard the news mention someone being born C-Section?

Didn't think so.

Read my lips: Research doesn't back it up. Even in the worst of cases, good homes trump bad genes, in my opinion. One of the two of us--my brother or me--are living proof.

But you'll never know which one. Hopefully.


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Sunday, November 7, 2010

Orphan Sunday: Hope is Fading

Tonight, words fail me.
Watch a video in honor of today, Orphan Sunday.

Hope is Fading – Orphan Sunday from Allan Rosenow on Vimeo.



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Friday, November 5, 2010

Not in Kansas Any More


Photo submitted by a reader; used by permission

After I wrote the post (dated 10/19/2010) a reader submitted this photo.
Amazing! Who'd have ever thought?--You can organize your books by color scheme? It's like a perfect closet ... only better! So many ways to organize, so little time.

I love it. And I might just try it.

Happy Friday!


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Thursday, November 4, 2010

Thanksgiving Preparation: Phase 1


Photo by RowdyKittens

Thanksgiving is 3 weeks from today.
And like we try to do around here at House Honcho, we're going to break down the preparation and process of getting ready for this holiday into small, manageable parts.

The first part or phase of this process is the planning phase. We'll make nearly every decision pertaining to November 27 during the next week. The more we do now, the less work and stress we'll face in the single-digit countdown.

As Alan Lakein, a well-known time management author, said, “Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now."

Let's do something now about a day that can be so busy that we forget to enjoy it.

This link will lead you to 5 planning steps, tips included, for a successful Thanksgiving.


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Wednesday, November 3, 2010

On Bing and Being Hypocritical


Photo by joyosity

"Why is Christmas here already?"
This week, I finally got around to reading Thursday's newspaper from October 21st, and that was the blaring headline: "Why is Christmas here already?" The story featured a photo of a woman perusing an aisle of lime green Christmas stockings and gold foil wrapping paper.

But before I even read the story, I was heartily agreeing with its premise, nodding like a bobble head. It seems every year that the holidays are rolled out earlier. A week ago, I was in a store that featured Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year decorations.

I nearly asked if they were stocking Valentines, but I didn't want to know.

I didn't finish reading the story--I barely got to the part where the woman bought her first ornament of the season--when I found myself unpacking a box of Christmas CDs in my living room, preparing to put one in the player. And then it struck me all at once:

I was guilty of doing the same thing! How could I judge a store for displaying Christmas trees while I listened to Bing Crosby sing about silver bells?

Here is my resolution: I will remain vigilant in my home to enjoy the time that is now. There will be plenty of time for celebrating next month's holidays next month.

As Bing will soon enough sing, Christmas Is A-Comin' ... but it doesn't have to be here yet. Not in my house.


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Tuesday, November 2, 2010

From Voting to the Reformation: Six Degrees of Separation


Photo by ejhogbin

When it comes time to vote, I find myself rationalizing the whole process.
Does one vote really make a difference? Would it really matter if I didn't vote?

It's not that these thoughts are the basis for the decision of whether I vote or not. They're just the kinds of things I think when visualizing the whole process and philosophizing about my pending actions. What can I say?

It's the kind of girl I am.

This year, I'm thinking a little differently about the whole process. Yesterday was Reformation Day. It's the day of remembrance for the actions of one man. He cast his vote based solely on his convictions and faith.

In 1517, Martin Luther penned a document which is now known as the 95 Theses. In it, he questioned--nay, challenged--the practices of the pope and the Catholic Church, and Roman Catholic theology as a whole.

Within two months, the 95 Theses were translated from Latin to German and spread throughout all of Europe.

One man. One vote. Impacting the world for centuries to come.


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Monday, November 1, 2010

Crazy Little Thing Called "Love"


Photo belongs to Trisha

This month is National Adoption Month.
Adrianna--who faithfully monitors the holiday calendar--reminded me this afternoon that it is, in fact, time to celebrate adoption. And I am excited to do so. This month marks the 20th month that my husband and I have been in the process of bringing our son home. So adoption is very close to my heart.

(Sometimes I think--if the doctor held a stethoscope up to my heart--he would hear the faint whisper of "adoption. adoption. adoption." Though he would likely just give me a stress test and send me home!)

Every Monday this month, I will share something about adoption. Or perhaps I will round up others who can participate.

Based on some of your e-mails to me and the plethora of adoption-related questions you have sent my way, here are 5 random things I'll share about adoption:

1. My brother and I were adopted. (Consequently, when my brother was little, he told people he wasn't born--he was adopted.)
2. Polls show that 58 percent of Americans have a personal connection to adoption.
3. Only 2 percent of children adopted in the U.S. are infants. The average age of a waiting child is 8 years old.
4. There are 423,773 children in the U.S. foster care system. (My brother and I had fantastic foster parents!)
5. When I was a kid, I used to tell my brother it was a buy-one-get-one-free sale. I laughed. He didn't. But we've been best friends since childhood.

You can put a price on adoption, but you can't put a price on family.


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