Dear House Honcho

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Dear HouseHoncho,

I am the mother of 3 beautiful little daughters. I know I am blessed, but I also know that I am not a good housekeeper, and it worries me that my daughters aren't ready for what's out there. My home skills are not a strong point, and I struggle to do things that other women probably think are easy. In fact, I really don't like taking care of my home, even though I am a stay-at-home mom. My mom was not a home maker. She actually laughed at people who wanted to give up a profession to stay home. I don't know what I am asking for exactly, but I would like some encouragement.

Thank you.
R. Rankin
Mississippi


Dear R. Rankin from Mississippi,

First of all, let me applaud your interest in home management and motherhood. The fact that you have made a good choice for your family that contradicts the example you were given, is wonderful proof that we are not the product of our pasts. I am thrilled for you that you have been given the awesome responsibility of raising three lovely daughters. You have already begun to teach them, by your example, that being a mother is important.

It sounds like, from what you said, that your daughters are still young. If that is the case, you have time to teach them that home management is a priority. Depending on their ages, maybe there are things you can learn to do together. Additionally, I would encourage you to seek out a mentor--specifically someone older and wiser--who you can share honest dialogue with about the struggles you are facing in your house. Maybe this individual can help you assess where your weak points are and help you strengthen them.

You have obviously started on the right foot by loving your children and devoting yourself to things that are important. Learning to fold towels and clean the oven is secondary--and certainly something you can do if you put your mind to it.

Keep it simple!
HouseHoncho